7 questions to ask yourself before your baby is born
Raging hormones, acne, insecurity and doubt? Why new motherhood can be a lot like adolescence.
I get it mama, between the first-trimester fatigue and nausea, to the second-trimester burst of energy where you research everything about pregnancy and birthing, to the third-trimester of nesting and discomfort - most first time moms do not have time (or direction) on how to prepare for MOTHERHOOD itself.
Sure, you may have found the perfect stroller and bassinet for baby but the reality is that we do not live in a culture where we universally support mamas on how to best prepare themselves for the recovery of birth and early days of motherhood.
In my dream world, all mamas would spend copious time preparing for their 4th trimester but the reality is that not everyone can or will. If you do nothing more than ask yourself the following 7 questions before labor kicks in consider yourself ahead of the curve!
Millennial moms: Stop applying your work ethic to motherhood. It’s not effective and here’s why...
Have you ever thought about the parallels between your awkward teenage years and new motherhood? As women, we can see and feel the similarities as it relates to our hormones but did you know that there is a psychological term for the developmental stage of becoming a mother? Similar to adolescence, when a woman becomes a mother she is going through matrescence.
Take back your postpartum with these 10 tips
In my experience coaching moms, one truth has become clear: new mothers are bone-tired exhausted and feel guilty for it so they sweep it under the rug and keep going. But how long can that go on?
According to Motherly’s 2019 State of Motherhood survey results, 85% of millennial moms do not feel understood or supported by society (that’s more than 10% over last year).
I can understand why! Millennial mothers were raised with the ‘you can have it all’ mentality. This is one of the reasons why women are out-educating men and killing it in the workforce. That is until they decide to become mothers. It is then when many women realize that having it all is unattainable. It is no wonder we are confused, we were good little girls who followed all the rules – what went wrong?
A sweet treat for mama
I am devastated by the standard of care our society provides to postpartum women. In an ideal world, women would not need to “take charge of their postpartum” and instead would be naturally cared for through the instinctual nature of society and also support systems that allow new mothers to take a well deserved, PAID pause.
Nourishing the postpartum mother
If you missed my last blog post, Nourishing the postpartum mother, I am in the process of testing the recipes suggested in the well-known postpartum cookbook, The First Forty Days. I started with the chicken bone broth and it was hit with the whole family. We’ve been eating meals around broth all week long and my kids gobbled it up.
Our first weeks living in France: The good, the bad, and the ugly.
The First Forty Days: The Essential Art of Nourishing the New Mother was published in 2016 and has become a go-to guide for women seeking education on how to best support their postpartum experience. I was drawn to read this book as part of my postpartum doula certification program but also because I am fascinated with how other cultures both currently and historically nourish and nurture postpartum women (and when I am done reading it I will share my full book review).
Traveling with two small children half way across the world (and what I would do differently next time)
If you have been following along on Instagram you have seen a lot of the good. Baguettes, croissants, 5€ bottles of rosé, unseasonably warm weather (65 degrees!), gorgeous landscape scattered with wildflowers, ancient castles, and the most delicious goat cheese you could ever know.
It is fun to share the highlight REEL, but let us get REAL. Moving across the world with two children and not much set up in advance (while on a tight budget) is not all croissants and macaroons. We have had sleepless nights, cranky children, bureaucratic red tape that feel impossible to navigate – all the while not having a car or a house to call our own.
Why we said YES to moving our family of four to France
We have arrived at our destination in Western France in the Poitou-Charentes region. We will spend our first two weeks in the home of George’s colleague and his partner, Claire, who instantly welcomed us with open arms. Their home is light and airy with a modern french style that feels effortless yet refined.
7 Truths about Meditation
When my husband first told me about a potential job offer in Western France my wanderlust heart began dreaming of baguettes, cheese, wine, and the quaint landscape of what I imagined to be the French countryside. But truthfully, I knew the reality of it would be much different.
New Year's Resolutions That Stick
Nearly all of my adult life I’ve had the hunch that I “should” meditate and that it would be super helpful – but it took me YEARS before I would adopt a regular meditation practice. Looking back, I realized it’s because I had a false perception on what meditation looked like and how to do it.
If you have the urge to try meditation but not sure where to begin, my hope is that by sharing these 7 lessons I learned about meditation it will inspire you to give it a try.
What every postpartum American mother needs to know...
As we gear up for the beginning of 2019 many of us engage in the cultural ritual of setting a New Year’s resolution. And most of us also know what it feels like to set a resolution with the best of intentions for it to only fall by the wayside come March. But why do they fail?
Motherhood: The ultimate lesson on letting go
In America we have lost our generational knowledge on how to truly support postpartum moms. What was once a time of reverence and healing, has now become a period of anxiety and isolation for many new moms.
Should I hire a mom coach?
The birth of my second child has been my life’s greatest gift, thus far. Yes, each child is a gift and my first baby gave me the gift of motherhood which I am forever thankful for – but in comparison, she was easy and she kept me in my bubble of thinking I was in control. To a degree, my first baby fit into the mold of what I thought motherhood could be like.
Taking a parenting pause
Curious to learn more about what you can expect from working with me and why an investment in yourself is worthwhile? Below is a brief overview of how I can help.
You Have Time, Mama
When I was pregnant with my first daughter I didn’t spend too much time thinking about what it would be like to be a mom. My identity as a mother. Most of my research was around what was happening with my rapidly changing body and if my baby was the size of an apple or a pear (is there a difference?). I poured over learning about childbirth, researching the best stroller, and how to prevent stretch marks.
It didn’t actually occur to me to think about motherhood itself or to even begin to label what it was that I was stepping into until baby girl was 4 weeks old and I Googled, “how to get baby to sleep.”
You’ve been there, mama. It’s a frightening world out there in the land of Google and what came next was just the beginning…
Mama, I get it. You’re up at 5am with the baby. The dog is looking at you with begging eyes for that glorious scoop of kibble. The coffee maker has another 3 minutes before it’s fully brewed and your mind is already generating its to-do list for the day. It’s 5:15am and the adrenaline is already pumping.
Maybe you’re scrambling to get lunches packed, breast pump supplies washed, breakfast made. A shower? Oh yeah, that needs to happen too. Perhaps your sweet partner is still sleeping in bed and you think, “must be nice!”. Mama. Dear mama. I get you.